说起父母在教育子女过程中所扮演的角色,中国人最爱使用的词就是“严父慈母”。这似乎给人以这样一种印象,母亲给予孩子更多的是爱,而父亲给予孩子更多的则是管教。推崇这种模式的人当然有其“根据”。有人说,在男性的性格特征中,理性的成分比较多,而在女性的性格特征中,感性的成分更占优势。女性心肠软,男性心肠硬,这似乎是人们的共识。 且不论这种说法是否绝对化,单说把一种教育模式贯穿于孩子成长的全过程,这种做法就不符合发展的原则。我们都知道,从幼儿园、小学、中学,直到大学,在教 Speaking of the role parents play in educating their children, the favorite word for Chinese is “strict father and mother.” This seems to give the impression that mothers give children more love, and fathers give children more discipline. Of course, those who admire this model have their “basis.” Some people say that in the male personality traits, more rational components, and in the female personality traits, emotional components more dominant. Female soft-hearted, hard-hearted men, it seems that people’s consensus. Regardless of whether this argument is absolute or not, saying that an educational model runs through the entire process of child development does not accord with the principle of development. We all know that from kindergarten, elementary school, middle school, until college, teaching