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教育博士说:好话使孩子获得了愉快的情绪体验,满足了孩子的虚荣,却不能使孩子体会到挫折感,不利于孩子的成长。导致孩子只爱听“好话”的原因大致有以下几点:(一)就像孩子常简单地把人划分为“好人”和“坏人”一样,孩子对人、对事的认识缺乏深刻性和辩证性。因此,他往往把成人说他某一点“错了”看成是对他这个人的全面否定,而把父母夸赞某件事的“好”“真棒”看成是对他的全面肯定。他想做“好孩子”,所以就只想听“好话”。
Education Ph.D. said: Good words make the child a pleasant emotional experience to meet the child’s vanity, but can not make children feel frustration, is not conducive to the growth of children. The reason why children only love to listen to “good words” is roughly the following: (1) Just as children often simply classify people as “good people” and “bad people,” children lack profound understanding of people and things and Dialectical. Therefore, he often regards an adult as saying “wrong” at some point as a total negation of him, while seeing the “good” and “awesome” that parents praise for something as a full affirmation of him. He wanted to be a “good boy,” so he just wanted to hear “good words.”