编辑同志: 我们的女孩今年八岁,她有个很大的毛病,就是不会关心别人。家里老奶奶生病时叫她做点事她都不高兴,平时就更不用说了。在学校里也不会关心同学、老师,甚至在公共汽车上给病人让个座都不愿意。我们在家里上让老,下让小,在单位里也热心助人,可为什么我们的孩子却自私、不关心别人呢?我们应该怎么教育她才好? 江西张桦李霞张桦、李霞同志: 你们来信谈到,自己在家里上让老、下让小,在单位里也热心助人,为什么孩子却自私、不关心别人呢?看来,问题很可能出在你们的“下让小”上。因为孩子的自私往往来自父母的溺爱和迁就。那些在家里总是只从父母亲属那里得到照顾,而不需要关心、照顾 Editor’s Comrade: Our girl is eight years old this year and she has a big problem that she will not care about others. She was unhappy when she was sick at home when she was sick, not to mention. They also do not care about classmates or teachers in school or even give the patients a seat on the bus. We at home, let the old, the next let small, in the unit are also enthusiastic, but why our children are selfish, do not care about others? How should we educate her? Zhang Hua, Jiangxi Zhang Xia, Li Xia Comrade: you Since the letter says I have let the old and the younger be small at home, and are enthusiastic about helping others in my unit, why are my children selfish and not concerned about others? It seems likely that the problem lies in your “letting small” . Because children’s selfishness often comes from their parents’ spoiled and relocated. Those in the family are always taken care of only from their relatives, and do not need to care about and take care of