人们常常很喜欢、很向往的一种状态,叫做安详。活着是件麻烦的事情,焦灼、急躁、忿忿不平的时候多;安宁、平静、沉着稳定的时候少。常常抱怨旁人不理解自己的人糊涂了。人人都渴望理解,这正说明理解并不容易,被理解就更难,用无止无休的抱怨、解释、辩论、大喊大叫去求得理解,只会把人吓跑。不理解本身应该是可以理解的。理解“不理解”这是理解的初步,也是寻求理解的前提。你连别人为 People often like, very longing for a state, called peace. Living is a troublesome thing, anxious, irritable, indignant when more; peace, calm, calm and stable less time. Often complain about others who do not understand their own confused. Everyone is eager to understand, which means that understanding is not easy, it is even harder to be understood, endless grievances, explanations, debates and shouting to seek understanding will only scare people away. It should be understandable not to understand itself. Understand “Do not understand ” This is a preliminary understanding, but also to seek understanding of the premise. You even others