《论语·卫灵公篇》有云:“可与言而不与之言,失人;不可与言而与之言,失言。知者不失人,亦不失言。”说的是语言是一门艺术,应对进退间要讲究分寸,对“可与言”之人要适时进言,以免失去一个朋友或人才,而对“不可与言”者则要保持缄默或一定的距离,以免招惹是非。我在《说苑·杂言》中读到夫子的又 “The Analects of Confucius and Mencius” There is a cloud: “can be with the words and without words, lost; not with the words and the words, lost words. Language is an art, to deal with the discrepancy between retreat and retreat, to be timely with the words ”to be with the words,“ so as not to lose a friend or talent, and to be ”silent“ or to be silent or certain The distance, so as not to provoke the right and wrong. I read the ”Court and Miscellaneous" read the Master again