引子海灵格在《爱的序位——家庭系统排列个案集》中说到:在家庭中有一股强大的系统动力引领着每一个活在系统中的成员,这份动力来自亲族多代成员之间的联系,并受着对平衡的原始需求的支配,我们的情感动向便会为着达至系统平衡而做出一些表面上看起来非常不合情理的行为。我的咨询个案中的来访者,凯妈、凯,以及“隐身不见”的凯爸,便是受制于家庭内部动力流动的失衡,出现了亲子关系凌驾于夫妻关系之上 Heinzinger, in “The Sequence of Love - A Family System Casebook”, states that there is a powerful system dynamics in the family that leads every living member of the system, motivated by many generations of kin And under the control of the original demand for balance, our emotional movements will make apparently unjustified acts in the face of system equilibrium. My interviewees in the consultation case, Kay, Kay, and Kay, who are “invisible” are subject to imbalances in the flow of motivation inside the family and there is a parent-child relationship over the relationship between husband and wife