两年前,有个家长突然给我提出了一个问题:为什么每次我感觉很不好的时候,你却觉得我有进步;我感觉还可以的时候,却被你挑出很多问题?这个问题我一直记得很清楚,因为它太典型地反应了刚刚开始更新教育方式的家长们共同的感受。那么为什么我们的感觉会如此迥异呢?其实换个角度也很好理解。当努力改变自己的时候,内心会觉得艰难,同时会伴随各种不确定感:我这样做是否妥当?会有效果吗?孩子会有怎样的反应?一旦错了怎么办?天啊,好难啊……但是,如 Two years ago, one of the parents suddenly asked me a question: why do you think I have progressed every time I feel bad? When I feel it is possible, I have been singled out a lot of problems I remember it all the time because it’s so typical of the common feelings of parents who have just begun to update their education. So why do we feel so different? In fact, from another perspective is also well understood. When I try to change myself, I feel hard inside, and I am accompanied by a variety of uncertainties: Is it proper for me to do so? Will it work? What will children react to? What should I do if I am wrong? Ah ... but, like