一位30岁,颇具魅力却离了婚的大学讲师,当初结婚时想迟点生孩子,可是却过早地怀孕了。生下孩子6个月,又身怀六甲,只好丢下工作。当她第三次怀孕时,她对丈夫说:“不要这么频繁!”于是丈夫跟她“再见”。 “性愚昧毁了我的生活。”她告诉我,“我不想我的孩子将来重蹈覆辙”。我问她:“你跟孩子谈过性问题吗?”“噢,没有。”她回答,“他们太小,而且我觉得我懂得的也不够多。”性可能是一个令人窘迫的话题,家长们常感为难,不跟孩子提及。一位母亲说:“一旦你告诉他们那些事情,他们就会想去尝试。” 事实正与此相反。研究表明,家长向孩子提供性知识,则可延迟孩子的始发性行为,因为谈论此事改变了他们企图尝试的迫切心情——好奇性。同时,知识也如实给他们指明了危险与责任。 A 30-year-old charismatic divorced college lecturer, who had later wanted to have children while married, was prematurely pregnant. Give birth to children for 6 months, and pregnant, had to leave work. When she was pregnant for the third time, she said to her husband: “Do not be so frequent!” So her husband “Goodbye” with her. “Sexual ignorance ruined my life.” “She told me,” I do not want my kids to repeat the mistakes in the future. “ I asked her: ”Did you talk to your child about sex? “ ”Oh, no.“ ”She replied,“ They are too young, and I do not think I know enough. ”Sex may be one Frustrating topics, parents are often embarrassed, not to mention with their children. One mother said: “Once you tell them those things, they will want to try.” "The fact is the opposite. Studies show that parents providing sexual knowledge to their children can delay the child’s initiative because talking about it alters the urgency of curiosity that they are trying to experiment with. At the same time, knowledge also gives them a clear indication of the dangers and responsibilities.