美国一位著名成人教育家这样忠告人们:要祝女孩幸福,千万不要祝她们成功。 对女人而言,幸福与成功似乎是一对天生的冤家。“鱼”和“熊掌”不可兼得。然而,在传统的定义看来,“嫁汉嫁汉,穿衣吃饭”就是幸福,而成功根本就不是女人的事儿,即便有凤毛麟角的女人脱颖而出,她们已不是直正意义上的女人,而 One famous adult educator in the United States advises people that to wish girls happiness, do not wish them success. For women, happiness and success seem to be a natural enemy. “You can not have it both ways. However, in the traditional definition, ”marrying Han to marry Han and dressing for food" is happiness. Success is not a woman at all. Even if there are rare women who stand out, they are no longer just women in the right sense.