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Have you ever been the recipient of put-downs or unfriendly language？If you have， your confidence may have suffered a great nosedive.I once joined a summer music camp for studying the piano. One day， a teacher asked me to be a page-turner for him in a performance and I agreed. However， a fellow student came near me afterward and said，“You page-turn way better than you play.”
After the first shock had worn off， my head was filled with her words. I suffered from her biting words for weeks and months after the camp was over. I’d lost whatever little confidence I had in my ability to play in public and even wanted to give up playing. However， with time goes by， my confidence slowly returned and I found some good steps to reduce the damage in the face of great put-downs. First is to acknowledge your feelings. If you’re struggling with difficult emotions after a put-down， acknowledge the feelings. Allow them to pass through you and always remember this simple truth： you are not your emotions. Then， you need to focus on the positive.Put-downs can make us feel small.But we do have power to focus on the positive. You’ll understand the powerful truth that it’s not the put-down that breaks your confidence； it’s how you choose to think and feel about it. Thirdly it is to forgive and let go. When someone hurts you deeply with their words， the last thing on your mind at that moment is forgiveness. But your willingness to forgive will lift your spirit and recover your confidence. This doesn’t mean that we try to become her/his friend， or pretend the incident never happened. It just meant that we chose to stop holding on to our negative feelings toward her or him and let them pass through us.
In all， the secret for regaining confidence is to refuse to believe the voices that say you are not smart enough， beautiful enough， or worthy enough， because you alone are enough.
Vocabulary
recipient n. 接受者
nosedive n. 名声（心情）低落/骤降
acknowledge v. 承认
lift v. 提高
pretend v. 假装
（Did the incident happen to you and how did you deal with it？）
After the first shock had worn off， my head was filled with her words. I suffered from her biting words for weeks and months after the camp was over. I’d lost whatever little confidence I had in my ability to play in public and even wanted to give up playing. However， with time goes by， my confidence slowly returned and I found some good steps to reduce the damage in the face of great put-downs. First is to acknowledge your feelings. If you’re struggling with difficult emotions after a put-down， acknowledge the feelings. Allow them to pass through you and always remember this simple truth： you are not your emotions. Then， you need to focus on the positive.Put-downs can make us feel small.But we do have power to focus on the positive. You’ll understand the powerful truth that it’s not the put-down that breaks your confidence； it’s how you choose to think and feel about it. Thirdly it is to forgive and let go. When someone hurts you deeply with their words， the last thing on your mind at that moment is forgiveness. But your willingness to forgive will lift your spirit and recover your confidence. This doesn’t mean that we try to become her/his friend， or pretend the incident never happened. It just meant that we chose to stop holding on to our negative feelings toward her or him and let them pass through us.
In all， the secret for regaining confidence is to refuse to believe the voices that say you are not smart enough， beautiful enough， or worthy enough， because you alone are enough.
Vocabulary
recipient n. 接受者
nosedive n. 名声（心情）低落/骤降
acknowledge v. 承认
lift v. 提高
pretend v. 假装
（Did the incident happen to you and how did you deal with it？）