这个案例乍一看,很令人费解,一个当老师的妈妈,严格得近乎苛刻的教育怎么有一个“偷窃”行为的孩子?然而,当我们深入了解了这个孩子从小生长的家庭环境,就会发现,通常被很多家长忽略的家庭负性事件正是孩子问题行为产生的根源。这孩子出生后就几乎生活在父母吵架的环境里,后面紧接着是父母离婚,然后离开妈妈,被送到陌生的外婆家。6岁,同时面对业已陌生的城市、陌生的小学和陌生的寄养人家里,动荡的生活环境令年幼的孩子没有一点安全感。而人对于安全感的需要是在五大基本需要中,仅次于吃喝衣住等生理需要的第二重要的需要,尤其对于年幼的孩子,失去安全需要将导致一系列心理行为问题出现。 At first glance, this case is very puzzling. As a teacher’s mother, a child with a rigorous and almost rigorous education how to have a “stealing” behavior? However, when we have a thorough understanding of the family environment in which the child grew up, You will find that negative family events, which are often overlooked by many parents, are precisely the root causes of child problem behavior. After the child was born, he almost lived in an environment where parents quarreled, followed by parents divorcing and then leaving their mother to be sent to a strange grandmother. 6 years old, at the same time facing the unfamiliar city, strange primary school and unfamiliar foster home, the turbulent living environment makes the young children have no sense of security. And the need of people for the sense of security is the second most important need after the five basic needs, such as eating and drinking and clothing and other physiological needs. Especially for young children, losing their safety needs will lead to a series of psychological and behavioral problems.