不夸张地说,原生家庭给我们带来的成长遗感,是我们负面情绪的最大来源。从小在家庭中长大,父母的动作、行为、言语,他们如何处理关系,如何处理情绪,如何对待你……这些行为都像无形的催眠一样影响着你。例如,你很怕拒绝别人,对别人说“不”会让你心慌。这是因为,从小在父母身边长大的经历告诉你,拒绝意味着伤害。当你想要一个冰激凌,爸爸妈妈决定不买给你时,他们并不会平和、简单地对你说:“现在天气太冷,吃冰激凌容易生病。” It is no exaggeration to say that the legacy of the growth brought about by the native families is the greatest source of our negative emotions. Grew up in a family, parents’ movements, behaviors, words, how they deal with relationships, how to deal with emotions, and how to treat you ... All of these actions affect you like invisible hypnosis. For example, you are afraid of rejecting someone and saying “no” to others will make you feel flustered. This is because, as a child, growing up with his parents tells you that refusal means injury. When you want an ice cream, Mom and Dad decide not to buy you, they do not calm down and simply say to you: “Now the weather is too cold and eating ice cream is easy to get sick.”