俗语说:“良言一句三冬暖,恶语伤人六月寒”。确实,语言是一柄双刃利剑,善用者能横扫千军、杀敌致果,拙运者则磕磕绊绊,因辞害意。而在这个世界上,你几乎找不到一个不希望别人给自己美好祝愿的人。且不说我们常常会忘记给别人一个真挚的祝愿,就是有这种想法,表达出来的话语也往往辞不达意,甚至会愿望与效果南辕北辙。由此可知,不仅批评人要讲艺术,恭维人也有艺术性。 恭维人要看情景。著名语言学家孟君曾经讲过这样一件事:有个四十多岁的副教授在除夕之夜对他说:“将来我写缅怀你的文章,我就……”在孟君先生明确表示不快后,他还是说“我说这话你又会不高兴了——以后我写回忆你的文章……”他每次这样说,孟君先生心里真的不高 As the saying goes: “a good word three winter warm, evil villain June cold.” Indeed, the language is a double-edged sword, good users can sweep the thousands of troops to kill the enemy, the poor transporters are stumbling blocks due to censure. In this world, you can scarcely find anyone who does not want others to give good wishes to yourself. Not to mention that we often forget to give others a sincere wish that there is such an idea and the words we express often fail to reach our expectations. From this, we can see that not only critics should talk about art, but also those who compliment artistry. Complimenting people depends on the scene. A well-known linguist, Meng Jun, once said something like this: An associate professor in his forties told him on New Year’s Eve: “In the future I will write down my article, I ...” When he was unhappy, he said, “You will not be happy again when I say this - I will write about your article later ...” Every time he said that Mr. Meng Jun was really not very good in his heart