孩子能给婚姻带来极大的快乐,我们应该给予他们关心和爱。但他们的降生可能改变夫妻俩原来的行为方式,甚至还可能改变彼此的感情。父母一旦陷入“孩子的奴隶”的角色,则其害无穷。我们都误以为孩子们不能自己照顾自己,而婚姻则可以任其发展。把夫妻共处看得无足轻重不仅会给夫妇自己带来痛苦,而且孩子们也会受到影响。如果能协调处理好夫妻之间的需要和孩子们的需要,你们的情感生活仍然可以再度充满激情。首先要意识到的是,你们既是孩子们的父母,也是情侣。与你的配偶保持情 Children can bring great happiness to marriage. We should give them care and love. However, their birth may change the original behavior of the couple and may even change their feelings. Once parents are trapped in the role of “child slaves,” they are in a destructive state. We all mistakenly believe that children cannot take care of themselves and that marriage can be allowed to develop. The insignificance of co-existence of husband and wife not only brings pain to the couple but also affects the children. If you can coordinate the needs of the couple and the needs of the children, your emotional life can still be full of passion. The first thing to realize is that you are both children’s parents and couples. Maintain love with your spouse