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魯迅早在一九一九年就寫過一篇题爲《我們現在怎樣做父親》的雜文,收在《魯迅全集》第一卷中。我現在借來做這篇短札的题目,是因爲我覺得這個問题似乎又成了一個值得全社會來思考的問题了。天下父母沒有不愛子女的。這是我終於也當了父親之後才真正體會到的。但是怎樣愛自己的孩子,特別是怎樣爱自己的‘獨苗’,確是當今年輕夫婦們颇感難辦的問题。鄰家一對年輕夫婦,有一子(恐怕將來也只能是有一子),還算聰慧,兩人决心培養。於是,把自行車、手錶賣了,給孩子買了架小鋼琴。聽說‘蜂王漿’對孩子大腦發育有好處,兩人節衣縮食,保證給孩子天天供應充足的‘蜂王漿’。最近那主婦大哭了幾次,緣由是要擠進一家據說是很高級的幼兒園,未果。爲此事,三十多歲的爸爸,作揖、磕頭都幹了,還是不行。心一横,那主婦竟退職回家了,要親自教育孩子。看來,小兩口是不惜以自己的青春年華爲孩子鋪路了。教育,我是赞成的。使自己的子女上個好幼兒園、好小學、重點中學、名牌大學,也是我所神往的。但以爲只有如此方能成才,我是懷疑的。據我所知,那所據說很高級的幼兒園的孩子,未必個個都是神童。該幼兒園在不久前的一次智力比赛中,位居第五,便是明證。
As early as 1919, Lu Xun wrote an essay entitled How We Do Fathers Now, which was collected in Volume I of the Complete Works of Lu Xun. I am borrowing the title of this short note because I think this issue seems to have become a question worth considering by the whole society. The world’s parents do not love their children. This is what I really realized after I finally became a father. But how to love one’s own child, especially how to love one’s own “solitary seedling”, is indeed a problem which the young couple nowadays feel difficult. A young couple next door, have a son (I am afraid in the future can only have a son), fairly intelligent, the two determined to train. So, the bike, watches sold, bought a piano for children. I heard that ’royal jelly’ is good for children’s brain development, both live frugally, to ensure adequate supply of ’royal jelly’ to children every day. Recently, the housewife cried several times because of squeezing into a kindergarten, which is said to be very advanced, without success. For this matter, more than thirty-year-old father, Zan, kowtow have done, or not. Heart of a horizontal, that housewives actually resigned to go home, to educate their children. It seems that the couple are paving the way for their children with their youthful years. Education, I agree. Make their children a good kindergarten, primary school, key middle school, brand-name universities, but also what I am fascinated. But I think that is the only way to be successful, I am suspicious. As far as I know, the children of the supposedly senior kindergarten are not necessarily all prodigy. The kindergarten in the recent intelligence contest, ranked fifth, is proof.