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夫妻怎样对待争吵 心理学家布朗蒂女士认为,夫妻常争吵根本原因往往是双方不够开诚布公和坦诚。解决的办法可以每天晚上抽出半小时,不带攻击性地谈谈一天的感受。如果夫妻间互相争吵已多得足以危及关系,布朗蒂女士建议双方试行一下“公平争吵”准则,即(1)争论时保持在一个争论的主题,不要牵扯出以往的不满;(2)尽量缩短争论的时间;(3)别在众人面前吵,别让他人知道;(4)别动手;(5)别吵了一半就开门而去;(6)别说“那我们离婚吧”之类的话。一个成功的婚姻并非其中就没有争吵,婚姻成功的夫妻在于善于把争吵变成增加坦诚和了解的机
How to deal with marital disputes couples Psychologists, Ms. Brady that the fundamental reason why couples often quarrel is often not open enough and frank and frank. The solution can be extracted every night for half an hour, talk without a day’s feelings offensive. If the quarrel between husband and wife is more than enough to jeopardize the relationship, Ms. Brownie suggests that both sides try the “fair bickering” guidelines, namely (1) to keep the subject of one argument during the debate and not to include past complaints; (2) to minimize Do not let others know; (4) Do not move; (5) Do not go a long way to open the door; (6) Do not say “that we divorce it” and the like . A successful marriage is not one of no quarrel, the success of marital couples is good at the quarrel into an increase of frankness and understanding of the machine