一个家庭内部的躁动和家庭内部的抑郁可以具有同时性,像李维榕笔下《顽皮的孩子和颓丧的母亲》就是这样的一个家庭。父亲的离情别恋,孩子的自行其是,无不对应着母亲的消极与隐忍。家庭的“现实”是一种互动着的关系,在孩子们的眼中,母亲不能留住父亲也就失去了教育的权威性。一般的心理学家会认为母亲的抑郁是家庭关系混乱不堪的原因,希望通过对母亲的治疗来重建家庭的权利等级和秩序。但从系统的观点来看,母亲的抑郁正好是她用来处理复杂现况的一种较为安全的防御,以适应家庭结构解体后的过渡时期。(当然,精神动力学的心理医生会认为母亲的抑郁是从小形成的一种“有效”的逃避机制)在这样的一个状态中,母亲似乎在期待长子快速成熟来填补父亲离去后的情感空间和权利空间。事实上,在文章中我们已读到,11岁的大弟说话那么的像一 An agitation within a family and depression within a family can be simultaneous, such as Li Weiling’s “naughty child and depressed mother” is such a family. Flirting with no love of the father, the child’s own self is, all corresponding to the mother’s negative and forbear. Family “reality ” is an interactive relationship in the eyes of the children, the mother can not retain the father also lost the authority of education. Psychologists in general will consider mothers’ depression as the cause of chaos in family relationships, hoping to rebuild the family’s rights and order through treatment of mothers. From a systemic point of view, however, mother’s depression happens to be a safer defense she uses to deal with complex situations in response to the post-disintegration transition of the family structure. (Of course, a psychodynamic psychiatrist might consider a mother’s depression as a “effective ” escape mechanism from an early age.) In such a state, the mother seems to be expecting the eldest son to mature quickly to fill the gap Emotional space and right space. In fact, we have read in the article that the 11-year-old brother speaks like one