当今社会,人们面临种种压力:工作、情感、人际交往——其中当属情感压力最大。而在情感压力中,当属婚姻中的挫折最大,尤其是婚外恋问题中的情感困惑。笔者通过心理咨询中所接受的有关案例发现,前来咨询倾诉最多的往往是女性,她们或泣不成声,或忧怨哀伤,给人的感觉是那么的无助和自卑。她们并不都是俗不可耐、面目可憎、素质低下的女性。相反她们中有很多往往具有娇好的容颜,稳定的收入,良好的文化素养。她们为家庭付出了很多很多,可是在感情 In today’s society, people are under various pressures: work, emotions and interpersonal relationships - among them the most emotional ones. In the emotional stress, undoubtedly the most setbacks in marriage, especially the emotional confusion in the issue of extramarital affairs. The author received through the psychological counseling found in the case, come to consult the most often talk to women, they are crying or grieving, giving the impression of feeling so helpless and inferiority. Not all of them are vulgar, disgusting, low-quality women. On the contrary, many of them often have a nice appearance, a steady income and a good cultural accomplishment. They pay a lot for the family, but in feelings