妻子的初恋情人,从朋友的角度给我们帮了不少大忙,而且他看上去是个正派的人。但我还是拿捏不好相处中的分寸,有时候在想,是不是也要有所警惕?你没有详细说明,我想,至少有两种情况。一种是虽然对你们来说,那个忙很大,但对他来说,只是举手之劳;另一种情况是他需要花费很多心血、精力、人脉、资源,才能帮到你们。如果属于前者,他又为人正派,应该没有什么可担心的。而若是后者,问题 His wife’s first love, help us a lot from the perspective of friends, and he looks decent. But I still do not get along with the sense of proportion, sometimes thinking, is not also be on guard? You did not elaborate, I think, at least two cases. One is that although it is a lot of work for you, it is only a matter of his own hands; the other is that he needs a lot of effort, energy, contacts and resources to help you. If you belong to the former, he is decent, there should be nothing to worry about. If the latter, the problem