首先,我们要明确一个问题,13岁进入青春期之后对异性的兴趣是一个人成长中的正常表现。如果一个人在进入这个年龄之后对异性没有一点儿感觉,那倒是个问题了。其次,我们要明白孩子是不是在恋爱,在我看来孩子和异性的接触并不是我们所认为的恋爱。但是孩子为什么要和异性密切接触呢?现在的孩子特别是城市里的孩子大多是独生子女,没有兄弟姊妹,当他们遇到问题的时候会很自然地寻找一个倾诉对象。我们不可否认的是,孩子是不会把全部的心理感受和疑惑都向父母和老师诉说 First of all, we need to make it clear that the interest in heterosexuality after 13 years of adolescence is a normal manifestation of one’s growth. It is a problem if one does not feel the opposite sex after entering this age. Second, we have to understand whether the child is in love, in my opinion, the contact between the child and the opposite sex is not what we think of love. But why do children have close contact with heterosexuals? Children in present-day cities, especially in cities, are mostly single children and no brothers and sisters. When they encounter problems, they naturally look for an object of conversation. We can not deny that the children will not tell all the psychological feelings and doubts to parents and teachers