许多人觉得,恋爱主要是双方交流和统一感情,这当然不错。但是,如果双方最终需要用婚姻来肯定和巩固恋爱结果,那么他们就面临着一个深刻得多的问题——如何把双方内心深处的期望和动机统一起来。 Many people think that it is certainly good that love is mainly the exchange and unification of the two sides. But if both parties ultimately need to use marriage to affirm and consolidate their love affair, then they face a much deeper problem - how to unite expectations and motives deep inside.