燕子轻生的悲剧,使人们想到了这样一个问题:用什么方法管教我们的子女。人们习惯上认为:严格管理就是上策。其实更重要的是理解。没有对孩子心灵的深刻洞悉;没有与子女思想感情的密切沟通,那种家长制的管束越严,就越促使事物走向反面。燕子的轻生就是例证。 Swallows tragedy, so that people think of such a question: how to discipline our children. People used to think: strict management is the best policy. In fact, more important is to understand. There is no profound insight into the child’s mind; there is no close communication with his children’s thoughts and feelings. The more stringent the paternalism, the more things are pushed to the opposite. Swallow’s birth is an example.