读作家阎云翔的《私人生活的变革》,似乎把我们也带到了那个原始的贫瘠的广袤的乡村。我们或许都知道,那个时候用以婚姻缔结的礼物交换,原本应该发生两个家庭之间,但在年轻人一结婚就分出去单过,而且彩礼折成现金直接交付给新娘(而非新娘的父母,从而避免被挪用给小舅子娶媳妇)的情况下,新人总是尽最大限度争取彩礼和嫁妆。阎云翔把这种“情结”归结为年轻人自我意识的崛起。即便如此,阎云翔仍公允地写道:“新郎们尽管 The ”transformation of private life“ of writer Yan Yunxiang seems to have taken us to the primitive barren vast countryside. We may all know that at that time the exchange of gifts for the conclusion of marriage should have taken place between the two families, but when the young married, they were separated and the bridegroom was handed over to the bride (instead of the bride’s) Parents, so as not to be misappropriated to a brother-in-law to marry a daughter-in-law), the couple always try their best to get bridewealth and dowry. Yan Yunxiang attributed this ”complex“ to the rise of young people’s self-awareness. Even so, Yan Yunxiang still fair to write: ”The groom though