在国内外礼貌现象的研究中说话人面子几乎被忽略。本文以话剧《茶馆》中的人物对话为语料,对说话人自身的面子需求和其为维护自身面子需求所采取的言语策略进行专门研究,以探讨说话人的面子需求与言语礼貌之间的关系。经对语料进行定性研究发现,说话人对自身面子的考虑会影响整个话语交际的礼貌程度。对说话人自身面子需求进行深入研究有助于我们更全面地剖析礼貌现象。 The speaker’s face is almost ignored in the study of politeness at home and abroad. In this paper, the dialogue in the drama “Teahouse” as the corpus, the speaker’s own face needs and their own face to face the language needs of the strategy to take a special study to explore the speaker’s face needs and the relationship between speech and courtesy . After qualitative research on the corpus, it is found that the speaker’s consideration of his own face affects the politeness of the whole discourse communication. An in-depth study of the speaker’s own needs helps us to analyze politeness more fully.