和孩子一起聊一聊,什么样的话可以大声说出来,什么样的话又只能悄悄地说,甚至都不能说。心理学家阿伦森曾做过这样一个实验,将被试者分成四个小组,并分别给予不同评价:对第一组的评价始终是否定,对第二组的评价始终是肯定,对第三组的评价先褒后贬,对第四组的评价先贬后褒。结果发现,第一组的反应为不满意,第二组为满意,第 Chatting with the children, what kind of words can be uttered loudly, what kind of words can only quietly say, can not even say. The psychologist Aronson has done such an experiment, the subjects were divided into four groups, and were given different evaluations: the first group of evaluations are always negative, the second group of evaluation is always affirmative, the first Evaluation of the three groups after the first praise, devaluation of the fourth group after the first devaluation praise. The results showed that the first group was not satisfied with the response, the second group was satisfactory, the first