不少父母都有这样的烦恼:孩子愈大,便愈难与他们沟通,甚至不知应该怎样去交谈,往往说不了几句,孩子就表现得一脸不耐烦,或别过脸去,或返回自己的房间。这显示了亲子之间尚未能建立起积极正向的情感反应。父母对孩子说话时,应该有正向的目的,例如提供知识信息、解决疑难、说故事、分享情感、表达自己的意见等。父母如果能表现友善,不以强者的权威压制孩子,往往会得到孩子相对的友善。“沉默”也是有效的沟通,可以避免冲突的语言伤害,更能 Many parents have such troubles: the bigger the child, the harder it is for them to communicate with each other, and they even do not know how to talk, often can not say a few words, and the child shows a look of impatience or disregard of face or return Own room. This shows that the parent-child relationship has not yet been able to establish a positive emotional response. When parents speak to their children, they should have a positive purpose, such as providing knowledge and information, solving problems, telling stories, sharing feelings and expressing their opinions. If parents can behave friendly, not with strong authority to suppress the child, often will get the child relative friendly. “Silence” is also an effective communication that can avert language conflicts of conflict and is even better