我儿子汤姆11岁时,问我能否在湖畔举办一场仪式,悼念他父亲去世两周年。他不仅希望我们在冬天的密西根湖畔静静欣赏旭日,同时还坚持要在沙滩上吃拌有草莓口味的脱脂奶开心果。“开心果?在清晨六点的时候?”我难以置信地问。“妈,拌有草莓口味的开心果是爸爸最喜欢吃的点心嘛!” My son Tom, at the age of 11, asked me if I could hold a ceremony at the lake to pay tribute to the second anniversary of his father’s death. He not only hoped we could enjoy the sun on the banks of the Lake Michigan in winter, but also insisted on eating strawberry-flavored skim milk pistachios on the beach. “Pistachio?” At 6 o’clock in the morning? “I asked incredulously. ”Mom, the pistachio mixed with strawberries tastes like Dad favorite snack!"