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One of my favorite animated movies is 2）The Emperor’s New Groove.I know， I know， it’s no “3）Frozen，” but I personally prefer a 4）pudgy Egyptian 5）Elvis voiced by Tom Jones 6）belting out a 7）catchy tune about Prince Kuzco while he does the moonwalk， rather than frigid Queen Elsa’s 8）indulgent overplayed 9）anthem about letting go.
Besides the memorable 10）one-liners， 11）quick-witted humor and 12）endearing characters， I like the underlying message of the 13）flick about finding your “groove” in life， which is sometimes hard to do.
Now being well into middle age and full of the sage wisdom that can only come from doing many stupid things over several years， I’ve come to the conclusion that how you do something can be more important than what you do. You can do something exactly the same way as another successful person and fail miserably. I speak from experience.
Years ago， I met SuperMom — yes， the real deal. She was organized， cheerful， fit， cute， clean， smart， strict yet fun and her methods produced impressive results. I wanted to be just like her. I picked her brain continually about parenting methods， cleaning schedule， fitness， meal planning， and on and on. I worked tirelessly to implement her 14）regime into my life to earn the big “S” on my chest. I earned an “S” emblem， but it stood for StuperMom because the same methods applied in my life left me defeated and my family flailing. I finally realized that her methods worked for her because she was “her.” Her way of doing things fits her personality， pace and family. I had to find my own groove.
A few years ago I took a workshop where a presenter discussed various writing methods. He explained how some authors 15）meticulously outline before they start writing a story. Some start in the middle with the core of the story then work both ways out from there. Others have a basic concept in mind and start from the beginning to see where the story takes them spontaneously. Some start with the ending and work backwards. Each method has produced literary masterpiece. While there are common components that make up successful writing， the method in accomplishing it is variable.
Then the presenter said something that has become a 16）motto for me， “Find your formula and honor it.” He talked about discovering what works for you， then being the best at it. This advice has come in handy in my life way beyond writing. For example， my daughter called the other day from her summer sales job far from home in tears because she hadn’t had much success and is discouraged. She said she’s giving her 17）sales pitch exactly like the successful saleswoman who trained her， but not getting the same results. I replied， “Sweetie， her pitch works for her because she’s ‘her.’” She was confused until I said， “Remember the time I was trying to be just like Krissy？” She shuddered as childhood scars resurfaced， “Yeah， I try to block that part of our life out.” Then we talked about her unique personality traits and how they could be adapted for a persuasive pitch. And I sang her a few 18）bars in Egyptian Elvis.
我最喜欢的动画片之一是《变身国王》。我知道，那并不是《冰雪奇缘》，但我个人更喜欢汤姆·琼斯配音的矮胖“埃及猫王”，一边高声唱出关于库兹克王子的朗朗上口的曲调，一边跳着月球舞步，胜过冷艳的埃尔莎冰雪女王夸张纵情地演唱主题曲“一切随缘”。
除了令人难忘的俏皮话、机智灵敏的幽默桥段和惹人喜爱的角色，我还很喜欢这部影片所隐含的寓意：在生活中找到适合自己的路——有时候，这是很难做到的事情。
现在人到中年，得以明智，这仅仅是由这些年做过的傻事积累感悟所得。我总结出来的经验是：怎么样去做一件事情，比做这件事本身更重要。你可以完全按照某成功人士的方法去做同样的事情，但最后却惨淡收场。这完全是来自于我的经验。
几年前，我遇到“超级妈妈”——是的，货真价实的超级妈妈。她做事有条不紊、为人开朗、身材健美、可爱、整洁、聪明、严格但有趣。她的做事方法总能产生显著的成果。我想要做到她那样。我不断地学习她的育儿方法、清洁时间表、健身和进食计划等等。我不知疲倦地将她的生活管理体制贯彻到自己的生活中，就为了赢得胸前的那个“超级”的称号。我确实赢得了“超级”的徽章，但是这个“超级”代表的是“超级傻瓜妈妈”，因为同样的方法运用在我的生活中只能让我和我的家庭感觉挫败。我终于意识到她的方法之所以适合她，是因为她就是“她的方法”的那个“她”。她做事的方法适合她的性格、节奏和家庭。我必须找对自己的路子。
前几年，我参加过一个写作工作坊，那里的一位演讲者探讨了各种写作方法。他阐释一些作者如何在开始写作前一丝不苟地列出大纲。一些则是从中间切入，先从故事的核心写起，然后往两头写。其他的人则是先在脑海中对故事有个大概的构思，然后开始从头写起，看看故事会把他们带往何处，即兴发挥。有一些则从故事结局开始往前写。每一个方法都曾创作出文学巨著。虽然成功的作品包含一些共同的要素，但完成作品的方法却是多变的。
接着这位演讲者说的一句话成了我的座右铭——“找到你自己的方式，然后以身践行。”他讲到发现适合自己的方法，然后全力以赴。这个建议在我生活中大派用场，远甚于写作。
打个比方，几天前我那离家很远、在外面做暑期销售工作的女儿打电话回家，她流着泪说，因为做得不够成功而大受打击。她说自己正是按照那位成功的销售员训练的方式去推销产品的，但结果却大不相同。我回答说，“亲爱的，她的销售说辞适合她，因为她是那个‘她。’”她仍然显得十分迷惑，直到我说，“你记得那时候我努力想要做得像克丽丝吗？”她战栗了一下，因为童年的伤疤重新被揭开，“记得，我努力地把那段记忆从我们的生活中抹去。”接着我们谈论到她自己与众不同的个性，以及如何将其转化为具有说服力的销售说辞。最后我扮演“埃及猫王”给她唱了几段小曲。
Besides the memorable 10）one-liners， 11）quick-witted humor and 12）endearing characters， I like the underlying message of the 13）flick about finding your “groove” in life， which is sometimes hard to do.
Now being well into middle age and full of the sage wisdom that can only come from doing many stupid things over several years， I’ve come to the conclusion that how you do something can be more important than what you do. You can do something exactly the same way as another successful person and fail miserably. I speak from experience.
Years ago， I met SuperMom — yes， the real deal. She was organized， cheerful， fit， cute， clean， smart， strict yet fun and her methods produced impressive results. I wanted to be just like her. I picked her brain continually about parenting methods， cleaning schedule， fitness， meal planning， and on and on. I worked tirelessly to implement her 14）regime into my life to earn the big “S” on my chest. I earned an “S” emblem， but it stood for StuperMom because the same methods applied in my life left me defeated and my family flailing. I finally realized that her methods worked for her because she was “her.” Her way of doing things fits her personality， pace and family. I had to find my own groove.
A few years ago I took a workshop where a presenter discussed various writing methods. He explained how some authors 15）meticulously outline before they start writing a story. Some start in the middle with the core of the story then work both ways out from there. Others have a basic concept in mind and start from the beginning to see where the story takes them spontaneously. Some start with the ending and work backwards. Each method has produced literary masterpiece. While there are common components that make up successful writing， the method in accomplishing it is variable.
Then the presenter said something that has become a 16）motto for me， “Find your formula and honor it.” He talked about discovering what works for you， then being the best at it. This advice has come in handy in my life way beyond writing. For example， my daughter called the other day from her summer sales job far from home in tears because she hadn’t had much success and is discouraged. She said she’s giving her 17）sales pitch exactly like the successful saleswoman who trained her， but not getting the same results. I replied， “Sweetie， her pitch works for her because she’s ‘her.’” She was confused until I said， “Remember the time I was trying to be just like Krissy？” She shuddered as childhood scars resurfaced， “Yeah， I try to block that part of our life out.” Then we talked about her unique personality traits and how they could be adapted for a persuasive pitch. And I sang her a few 18）bars in Egyptian Elvis.
我最喜欢的动画片之一是《变身国王》。我知道，那并不是《冰雪奇缘》，但我个人更喜欢汤姆·琼斯配音的矮胖“埃及猫王”，一边高声唱出关于库兹克王子的朗朗上口的曲调，一边跳着月球舞步，胜过冷艳的埃尔莎冰雪女王夸张纵情地演唱主题曲“一切随缘”。
除了令人难忘的俏皮话、机智灵敏的幽默桥段和惹人喜爱的角色，我还很喜欢这部影片所隐含的寓意：在生活中找到适合自己的路——有时候，这是很难做到的事情。
现在人到中年，得以明智，这仅仅是由这些年做过的傻事积累感悟所得。我总结出来的经验是：怎么样去做一件事情，比做这件事本身更重要。你可以完全按照某成功人士的方法去做同样的事情，但最后却惨淡收场。这完全是来自于我的经验。
几年前，我遇到“超级妈妈”——是的，货真价实的超级妈妈。她做事有条不紊、为人开朗、身材健美、可爱、整洁、聪明、严格但有趣。她的做事方法总能产生显著的成果。我想要做到她那样。我不断地学习她的育儿方法、清洁时间表、健身和进食计划等等。我不知疲倦地将她的生活管理体制贯彻到自己的生活中，就为了赢得胸前的那个“超级”的称号。我确实赢得了“超级”的徽章，但是这个“超级”代表的是“超级傻瓜妈妈”，因为同样的方法运用在我的生活中只能让我和我的家庭感觉挫败。我终于意识到她的方法之所以适合她，是因为她就是“她的方法”的那个“她”。她做事的方法适合她的性格、节奏和家庭。我必须找对自己的路子。
前几年，我参加过一个写作工作坊，那里的一位演讲者探讨了各种写作方法。他阐释一些作者如何在开始写作前一丝不苟地列出大纲。一些则是从中间切入，先从故事的核心写起，然后往两头写。其他的人则是先在脑海中对故事有个大概的构思，然后开始从头写起，看看故事会把他们带往何处，即兴发挥。有一些则从故事结局开始往前写。每一个方法都曾创作出文学巨著。虽然成功的作品包含一些共同的要素，但完成作品的方法却是多变的。
接着这位演讲者说的一句话成了我的座右铭——“找到你自己的方式，然后以身践行。”他讲到发现适合自己的方法，然后全力以赴。这个建议在我生活中大派用场，远甚于写作。
打个比方，几天前我那离家很远、在外面做暑期销售工作的女儿打电话回家，她流着泪说，因为做得不够成功而大受打击。她说自己正是按照那位成功的销售员训练的方式去推销产品的，但结果却大不相同。我回答说，“亲爱的，她的销售说辞适合她，因为她是那个‘她。’”她仍然显得十分迷惑，直到我说，“你记得那时候我努力想要做得像克丽丝吗？”她战栗了一下，因为童年的伤疤重新被揭开，“记得，我努力地把那段记忆从我们的生活中抹去。”接着我们谈论到她自己与众不同的个性，以及如何将其转化为具有说服力的销售说辞。最后我扮演“埃及猫王”给她唱了几段小曲。