慢性子、胆小、不合群、脾气暴躁、上课捣乱……很多父母被孩子诸多的行为问题困扰着。他们不仅想改变孩子的现状,更想探究孩子们的内心世界。实际上,在焦虑之余,我们想到过没有,“问题”本身就是成长的一部分。所以,著名教育专家钟思嘉在他的《培养有责任感的孩子》一书中说道:“做父母的,首要之务即是停止忧虑孩子是否正常,重要的是了解到底哪一些事情在困扰孩子。放轻松点,了解只是第一步而已。最大的挑战是了解之后的行动。不管我们提供什么样的解决之道,解决方法是否有效,首先要看父母能否因孩子的改变而改变自己。” Chronic, timid, out of group, grumpy, class trouble ... ... Many parents are beset by many children’s behavior problems. Not only do they want to change their children’s status quo, but they also want to explore their inner world. In fact, in the anxiety, we think of no, “problem ” itself is part of the growth. Therefore, famous education expert Zhong Shijia said in his book “Cultivating Responsible Children”: “The most important thing to do when parents are parents is to stop worrying about their children’s normality. It is important to know which things are troubling their children.” To relax, to understand is only the first step.The biggest challenge is to understand the action.No matter what kind of solution we provide, the solution is effective, the first depends on whether the parents can change themselves because of the child’s change. "