NBA是男性的世界,充满着阳刚之气,但我发觉,如果把刚柔两面相济得体,教练这个行当就会愈发变得得心应手。不过对我而言,想办到这一点并非易事。所以每当我气冲斗牛之时,我的妻子泊恩就会耐着性子告诉我如何遏制这种突如其来的本能。其实以我的个性来说,融合刚与柔,以及弥合好情感与理智间的裂痕,一直是我做人的根本。虽然偶尔需要施展铁腕,但我很早就明白作为教练最重要的特质之一,就是仔细倾听并且及时做出正确的判断,这话说来容易,实则不然,尤其是在关系重大,同时还需属下有所表现的时候。我发觉,当我确实不偏不倚、发自内心地对待我属下的球员,并仔细倾听他们的意见时,这往往会比强行让他们服从什么更有实效。在这方面我有过教训——事实是你虽然有多种方法改变球员的意志,但如果老是想着控制局势,往往会酝酿抗拒,而现实也会给你难堪与失败。霍拉斯就是个 NBA is a male world, full of masculinity, but I found that if the rigid and flexible on both sides, the coach will be more and more become handy. However, for me, to do this is not easy. So whenever I’m bullshit, my wife, Behn, will be patient and tell me how to curb this sudden instinct. In fact, my personality, the fusion of just and soft, and to bridge the gap between emotion and reason, has always been my life. Although I have to play an iron fist occasionally, I have long understood that one of the most important traits of a coach is to listen carefully and to make the right judgments in time. This is easy, but not always, especially if the relationship is significant, Under the performance of the time. I find it more effective when I am truly impartial, treating my players heartily, and listening carefully to their opinions, often more than forcing them to obey. I have learned a lesson in this respect - the fact is that although you have many ways to change the will of the players, if you always think about controlling the situation, you will often resist and the reality will give you embarrassment and failure. Horace is one