夫妻在养育孩子的问题上存在一种隐藏着的竞争。首先,竞争源于夫妻是不同性别的人,对独生子女会有一种内心的教育期待,这些期待正是塑造孩子思想行为的家庭动力。事实上,孩子跟谁亲近,长大了性格也会更像谁。在教育孩子的问题上,家庭内常常有两种类型的冲突,一是价值观的冲突,由于教育的 There is a hidden competition between husband and wife raising children. First of all, the competition stems from the fact that couples are people of different genders, and there is a kind of inner educational expectation for only children. These expectations are exactly the family dynamics that shape children’s thinking and behavior. In fact, with whom the child is close, who grew up more like the character. On the issue of educating children, there are often two types of conflicts within the family. One is the conflict of values. Since education