张女士最近很犯愁,四年级的儿子东东跟她成“仇人”了。起因是她翻了儿子的书包,偷看了儿子与同学来往所写的小纸条。儿子发现后两个星期对张女士绷着脸,不跟她说话。张女士或许不懂,东东“记仇”源于他受伤的心理感受转化为愤怒的情绪。对东东来说,他处在学龄期向青春期转化的阶段,身高、体重等都在增长,他内心需要一种独立性来支持这种“长大”的感受。东东和他的同龄人会把交往的重心从家庭逐渐转向学校,也会从 Ms. Zhang has been very worried lately, fourth grade son Dongdong with her into “enemy.” The reason is that she turned his son’s schoolbag, peeping over the notes written by his son and classmates. Two days after her son was found, Ms. Zhang was shamed and did not speak to her. Ms. Zhang may not understand, stuff “revenge ” stems from his wounded psychological feelings into angry emotions. For Eastern, he is in the school-age to adolescent stage of transformation, height, weight, etc. are growing, his heart needs an independence to support this “grow up ” feeling. Eastern and his peers will be the focus of social interaction gradually shift from home to school, but also from