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对自己不过分苛求人应该有自己的抱负,但有些人的抱负不切实际,根本非能力所及,欲求不得,便会认为自己倒运而终日忧郁;有些人做事,要求十全十美,对自己的要求过于苛刻,结果受害者还是自己。为了消除挫折感,我们应该把目标定在自己能力范围之内,稍有提前量,不努力达不到,尽心尽力能够超越。努力完成目标后,心情自然就会舒畅。不要将自己的“标准”强加于人很多人把希望寄托在他人身上,假如对方达不到自己的要求,便会大失所望。这是将自己的“标准”强加于人,结果失望的是自己。其实,每个人都有自己的思想,都有优点和缺点,何必强求别人迎合自己的要求呢?
Too harsh on their own people should have their own ambitions, but some people’s aspirations are unrealistic, the fundamental non-ability to aspire, they will think they fall luck all day long, melancholy; some people work, request perfect, on their own requirements Too harsh, the result is still the victim himself. In order to eliminate the frustration, we should set our goals within the scope of our own ability, with a slight amount of advance, without any efforts, and we will do our best to surpass ourselves. After working hard to achieve the goal, the mood will naturally be comfortable. Do not impose their own “standard ” Many people put their hopes on others, if the other party can not meet their own requirements, they will be disappointed. This is the imposition of his own “standard”, the result of disappointment is himself. In fact, everyone has their own ideas, both advantages and disadvantages, why force others to meet their own requirements?