俗话说:“男大当婚,女大当嫁”,说明婚姻对于成年男女来说具有必然性和不可抗拒性。对于中国人来说,婚姻是一辈子最重要的事,是家庭和子嗣合法存在的基础,而且婚姻的缔结也直接影响到一个宗族系统的发达与否。所以婚姻虽然是好事,但在其缔结过程中又会受到各种有形无形的社会力 As the saying goes: “When men are married and women marry,” it shows that marriages are inevitable and irresistible to adult men and women. For the Chinese people, marriage is the most important thing in life and the basis for the legal existence of family and sons. And the conclusion of marriage has a direct impact on the development of a clan system. So marriage is a good thing, but in the process of its conclusion, it is subjected to various tangible and intangible social forces