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咨询个案:陷在自卑泥潭的女孩“我是个自卑的女孩,在自卑的泥潭中越陷越深。如果我告诉您我身高一米七,长得也算可以,家境也比较好,您会不会觉得我的自卑是庸人自扰?”整整18年,我都是在自卑中度过的,我的自卑是从小形成的。我爸爸就很自卑,他不善言谈,很老实,我觉得自己很像他。我小时候很黑,很丑,很儒弱,老实得不得了,经常被人笑话。奶奶讨厌女孩,而我又那么笨,不讨人喜欢,不会哄他们开心,所以,奶奶、爷爷根本就没疼过我。我的童年充满了苦涩。“我学习成绩很好,初中三年是我最快乐的时光。初中毕业后录取我的高中条件差,所以我决定重读。重读的一年我更认真,在我们班经常第一,后来考入了现在的重点高中。”我想,自卑的人也是不会适应新环境的人。走进高中,我感到一切都那么陌生。由于自卑,我上课回答问题声音发颤,双腿哆嗦,同学们都取笑我。我真的不想这样,我很想大大方方地站起来,回答问题吐字清晰。可我越想做好就越做不好,越做不好就越自卑。我陷入一个恶性循环之中,以致成绩一落千丈。我很讨厌自己,也很在乎自己的形象。可是半年前我脸上起了许多青春痘,我也想不在乎,可看到别人脸上那么光洁,我真的受不了……“
Counseling case: Girl trapped in the self-esteem quagmire ”I am a humble girl, deeper and deeper in the quagmire of inferiority. If I tell you that I am one meter tall and I can grow well, my family is better, you will not Will you feel that my self-esteem is a mediocre one? “For 18 years, I spent all my time in inferiority. My inferiority was formed at an early age. My father is very humble. He is not good at talking and is honest. I feel like him. When I was young, I was very dark, very ugly, very rude, very honest, and often joking. Grandma hates girls, and I’m so stupid, unappealing, and not happy with them. So grandma and grandpa didn’t hurt me at all. My childhood is full of bitterness. ”My grades are very good. Three years of junior high school were my happiest time. After I graduated from junior high school, I was admitted to poor high school conditions, so I decided to re-read. I was more serious in the year of rereading, and I was always the first in our class. Into the current key high school.“ ”I think people who are inferior to themselves will not adapt to the new environment." When I entered high school, I felt that everything was unfamiliar. Because of my low self-esteem, I was quivering in class to answer questions, and my legs were paralyzed. My classmates made fun of me. I really don’t want to do this. I’m tempted to stand up generously and answer questions clearly and clearly. But the more I want to do well, the better I can be, and the more I feel bad, the more I feel inferior. I was caught in a vicious cycle and my performance plummeted. I hate myself and I care about my own image. But six months ago I had a lot of acne on my face. I don’t care, I can see people’s faces are so smooth, I really can’t stand...”