抚养、抚育,是我们时常挂在嘴上的语汇,但不少为人父母者,却只知养育,对抚字毫无自觉理解。抚,就是抚摩,摩挲,说白了,就是肌肤间亲密而温柔的触摸。有的父母,特别是父亲,因为忙碌,因为认知上的缺陷与感情上的粗糙,虽然也偶尔会在抱婴儿时,跟孩子有些肌肤接触,但从未自觉地把抚摩孩子当作一项必修的功课,以表达自己的爱意,并向孩子传递一种无法用语言或其他方式表达的血缘信息。 Raising and nurturing are the words we often talk about, but many parents only know how to raise their children. They have no conscious understanding of the word. Stroking, that is, rubbing, Mount Ma, to put it plainly, is the skin intimate and gentle touch. Some parents, especially fathers, are busy because of cognitive deficits and emotional roughness. They occasionally touch some skin with their children when they hold babies, but they never consciously regard them as a Compulsory homework to express one’s love and to communicate to the child a blood message that can not be expressed in words or in other ways.