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家教过程中,正面教育是主流,但适度的负面刺激也必不可少。所谓的负面刺激,就是给孩子必要的批评、惩罚或让孩子独自面对困难与挫折。都说现在的独生子女毛病太多,比如骄娇二气、自私、任性、生活自理能力欠缺、做事被动消极、心理脆弱等等,一个重要的原因是,孩子生活条件优裕,家长过分照顾、保护。只有对孩子适度地负面刺激,该碰的钉子让他碰,该绕的弯路让他绕,该受的苦累让他受,该动的脑筋让他动,该挨的批评让他挨,才能有效锤炼孩子的意志品质,训练孩子的心理承受能力,培养孩子内在的自信与乐观,孩子在成长的道路上才会更坚强,更勇敢,更大气,更包容。有专家说,教育本身就是十八般武艺,表扬、批评、惩罚……什么都应该有。没有负面刺激的教育是不完整的教育,是脆弱的教育。这番话,希望能给家长们一些启示。
In tutoring, positive education is the mainstream, but moderate negative stimulation is also essential. The so-called negative stimuli, is to give children the necessary criticism, punishment or let the children face difficulties and setbacks alone. Saying that there are so many problems with one-child right now, such as arrogance, selfishness, self-willedness, lack of self-care ability, passive and passive workmanship, psychological vulnerability, etc. One of the important reasons is that the children have ample living conditions and the parents are over-looked and protected . Only a modest negative stimulation of the child, the touch of nails let him touch, the winding detours around him, the sufferings so that he suffered, the move of his mind let him move, the enduring criticism let him endure, to It will be more strong, brave, more atmosphere and more inclusive on the way of growing up, which will effectively temper the willpower of the children, train the child’s psychological endurance and cultivate the children’s inner self-confidence and optimism. Some experts say that education itself is eighteen kinds of martial arts, praising, criticizing and punishing ... what should be there. Education without negative stimulus is incomplete education and fragile education. These words, hoping to give parents some inspiration.