孔夫子曾经说:“小不忍则乱大谋。”许多人把孔子的这种说法绝对化、普遍化、常识化,变成了一种教条。许多人把“忍”字当作座右铭,变成了一条忍字诀。忍耐成为了一种美德和智慧,成为了我们的民族性格。我曾经在不惑之年,为一个忍字,付出了爱情、幸福以至几乎生命的代价。当一份真诚的感情发生在我面前的时候,一位聪明的博士让我忍耐,等待时机。他告诫我:“小不忍则乱大谋。”而我也相信,我们爱情的期限是“一万年”。然而,忍耐带来的是溃堤般的悲剧和灾难。 Confucius once said: “This is a big mistake for many people.” Many people have interpreted this Confucian style of absolute, universal, and common-sense into a dogma. Many people use the word “tolerance” as their motto and become a nibble. Patience has become a virtue and wisdom that has become our national character. I once was in the age of perplexity, as a forbearance, paid the love, happiness and almost the cost of life. When a sincere feeling happened to me, a smart doctor let me endure, waiting for the moment. He warned me: “I can not tolerate the small chaos. ” And I also believe that the duration of our love is “a million years ”. However, patience brings about the tragedies and disasters that break the banks.