编辑同志:我与一女青年已订婚一年多了,订婚时我给女方过了2000无彩礼钱。后来我们感情不和,我向女方提出解除婚约,但女方坚决不同意,彩礼也不返还。请问我该如何处理此事。辽中县.肖明肖明同志:在我国婚姻法中,对婚约未作规定,婚约不是成立婚姻关系的必经程序,它不受法律保护。婚姻当事人自行订婚,法律也不禁止。订婚靠双方在自愿的条件下去自行履行,双方可随时解除婚约,一方要求解除婚约也不必取得对方的同意。 Editorial comrades: I have been engaged with a young woman more than a year, when the engagement I gave the woman over 2000 unclaimed money. Later, we did not share our feelings. I proposed to the woman to dissolve the marriage contract, but the woman strongly disagreed and the bride price was not returned. How do I handle this? Liaozhong County. Xiao Ming Xiao Ming Comrade: In our country’s marriage law, no stipulation on marriage contract, marriage contract is not necessary to establish a marital relationship, it is not protected by law. Marriage parties themselves engaged in the law is not prohibited. Engagement can be carried out by both parties voluntarily by themselves and both parties may terminate their marriage at any time. It is not necessary for one party to obtain the consent of the other party to terminate the marriage.