有过这样的体验吗?某人做了一件让你很不爽的事情,你对他很不满,然后你会发现他的很多做法都让你不满,于是你很可能会说他的“坏话”。这个人若是你的同学、同事,你们的关系估计会陷入僵局,大家不相往来、漠视对方甚至攻击对方;这个人若是你的上级,你的不爽恐怕会更大一些——敢怒而不敢言嘛,久而久之会不利于你的心理健康,也会让你的上级对你越来越不满,进而处处挑你的刺。 Have you had such an experience? Someone has done something that makes you uncomfortable, you are very dissatisfied with him, and then you will find that many of his ways make you dissatisfied, so you are likely to say his “bad things ”. If this person is your classmate, colleague, your relationship is estimated to be in an impasse, we do not contact each other, ignore each other and even attack each other; if this person is your superiors, your unhappy I am afraid that will be larger - dare to anger and dare not Well, over time will not be conducive to your mental health, but also make your superiors more and more dissatisfied with you, and then pick your thorn everywhere.