由于当今独生子女的不断增多,不少年轻的父母为了孩子几乎什么都能想到和做到,一切为着孩子,几乎成了“共识”,尽量让孩子吃好、穿好,使孩子得到最好的照顾,享受到最高的待遇。这样做的结果殊不知造成孩子越来越孤僻怯懦、任性、易发怒、甚至自私、专横、受不得一点委屈,心理学家将之称为孩子在成长过程中缺少“劣性刺激”。所谓“劣性刺激”是指令人不愉快或不舒服的外部刺激。它尤如禾苗在生长过程中必须经过日晒、风吹、雨打才能开花结果一样,是孩子成长过程中不可缺少的环节。用得适时、适度,则很有利于孩子的身心发 Due to the growing number of only children today, many young parents almost can think of and do for the children, all for the children, almost became a “consensus”, try to make their children eat well, put their children to get the best Take care and enjoy the highest treatment. As a result of this, every child is less and less cowardly, self-willed, angry and even selfish, arbitrary and subject to grievances. Psychologists call this child a “bad stimulus” in the process of growing up. The so-called “inferior stimulus” refers to an unpleasant or uncomfortable external stimuli. It is particularly like seedlings in the growth process must be through the sun, the wind, rain can blossom the same result is an indispensable part of the child’s growth process. Used properly, moderate, it is very conducive to the child’s physical and mental hair