中国父母在育儿的过程中,经常会给孩子制定很多规则,为的是让孩子能听自己的话。孩子做得不好,或者没有按自己的要求完成,很多妈妈难以控制自己的冲动,会对孩子说狠心的话,但事后又为自己行为感到自责和内疚。这样的行为多次重复,孩子就会受到伤害。他做事想得更多的,是如何取悦自己的妈妈,而不是一种自我负责的态度。许多父母不自觉地做了焦虑型的父母,造成了孩子做事不专注,通俗地说,就是给予孩子过度的保护,有 In the process of childcare, Chinese parents often make many rules for their children so that their children can listen to their own words. Children do not do well, or did not fulfill their own requirements, many mothers have difficulty controlling their impulses, will say cruel words to their children, but later feel self-blame and guilt for their behavior. Such behavior repeated many times, children will be hurt. He wants to do more, how to please his mother, rather than a self-responsible attitude. Many parents unconsciously do anxiety-type parents, resulting in children do not concentrate on work, in other words, is to give children excessive protection, there