《知心姐姐》杂志公布的近期所做的3个“知心调查”报告显示,父母与子女在很多问题的认识上相去甚远。孩子:我们不想在否定中长大从事不同职业、来自不同地区的父母对子女最常说的三句话是:听话、好好学习、没出息。而同时接受调查的18个省市的6000多个孩子,却表达出强烈的愿望:我们不想在否定中长大!专家们说,“听话”是命令式的语言。的确,父母比孩子懂得多,孩子需要从父母那里获取人生的智慧与经验。但是这一切要建立在非命令的、平等的基础上。父母和孩子的平等沟通,才能 A recent report of Intimate Surveys released by Intimate Sister Magazine shows that parents and children are far from recognizing many issues. Children: We do not want to grow up in negation engaged in different occupations, parents from different regions, the most commonly used words to their children is: obedient, study hard, missed good news. While more than 6,000 children in 18 provinces and cities surveyed at the same time expressed a strong desire: we do not want to grow up in negation! Experts say “obedience” is an imperative language. Indeed, parents know more than their children, and children need the wisdom and experience of their lives from their parents. But all this should be based on non-imperative and equal basis. Parents and children’s equal communication, ability