给人提建议是一门艺术。提建议过于频繁或太强加于人,都会挫伤别人的首创精神和减弱其独立思考的能力。专家们认为,在你加入建议者行列之前,应就如下问题先问问自己: 我的根据和经验能否保证我的建议管用? 我是否在多管闲事? 提建议时我对自己的动机是否有把握? 这些建议是真有裨益,还是仅仅为了使自己显得更重要? 我是为了同别人共享知识,还是为了让人觉得我比别人懂得更多?我是否在谋求私利? 如果我对自己的建议没 Advice to people is an art. Making suggestions too often or too imposingly on others will hurt others’ initiative and weaken their ability to think independently. Experts believe that before you join the list of proponents, you should ask yourself the following questions: My basis and experience can guarantee my proposal to work? I am in mediation? Proposal on whether I own or not Is it really helpful to these suggestions or just to make myself more important? Do I share knowledge with others or do I think I know more than others? Do I seek personal gain? If I advise myself No