在性咨询门诊,一位40多岁的女性对医生说:“结婚20多年来,我先生似乎已经忘记该如何抚摸我。每当他想做爱时,就来亲个脸颊,亲个嘴,或摸一下我的左胸、右胸,接着就立即转入‘正事’。他在没有性交要求的情况下,平时根本碰都不碰我一下,难道做丈夫的都是这样的吗?”的确,笔者在性咨询门诊调查发现,许多夫妻在性活动中最缺乏的就是爱抚。本来夫妻间的爱抚亲昵应该是越多越好,可是有些夫妻的性爱抚却是如此之少,这自然造成了丈夫或妻子对性生活的不满。丈夫们抱怨妻子像个木偶,毫不配合,只知被动地等待他们的抚弄;妻子们埋怨丈夫只知道寻求刹那间快感。有的丈夫偶尔也爱抚一下妻子,但只是在自己需要性交时才匆匆忙忙地亲吻几下。在这种情况下,妻子们只是觉 At the counseling clinic, a 40-year-old woman said to a doctor: "My husband, for more than 20 years, seems to have forgotten how to touch me. Whenever he wants to have sex, he comes to have a cheek, a mouth, Or touch my left chest, right chest, and then immediately transferred to ’business.’ He did not have sexual intercourse in the case of the request, usually do not touch me at ordinary times, do the husband is like this? ’ Indeed, the author found in the sexual counseling clinic survey, many couples in the most lacking in sexual activity is caresses. Intimacy between husband and wife would have been the more in-line, but some couples are so little sex caresses, which naturally caused her husband or wife’s dissatisfaction with the sex life. Husbands complain that his wife is like a puppet, does not cooperate, only know passively waiting for them to be fondling; wives complain that her husband only know to seek pleasure in an instant. Some husbands caress their wives occasionally, but only kissing in haste while they need them. In this case, the wives just feel