中国家长有一个普遍的教育误区就是更多地注重揪出孩子的错误而并非肯定孩子的成绩。有个孩子总是不愿意吃饭,这让他的家长苦恼不已。一次,他的爸爸从外地带回一只新颖别致的椰壳,孩子见了爱不释手。这件事情让父亲突发奇想,就用锯开的椰壳给孩子盛饭。令人不可思议的是孩子吃得津津有味,而且饭量也大增。这一现象心理学上就被称为“椰壳效应”。“椰壳效应”妙就妙在变“要孩子吃”为“孩子要吃”。面对让不少家长感到头疼的孩子不好好吃饭的问题,用孩子感兴趣的椰壳盛饭,孩子竟然能愉快地吃下去。同样的道理,与孩子沟通时,把批评包装一下,给它裹上一层糖衣,让批评变得甘甜,亲子 Chinese parents have a common misunderstanding of education is to pay more attention to the child’s mistakes rather than determine the child’s achievements. A child always reluctant to eat, which distressed his parents. Once, his dad brought a fresh and unique coconut shell from the field, the child met the put it down. This thing let his father whim, just saw the coconut shell to the children Sheng rice. It is incredible is that children eat relish, and appetite is also greatly increased. This phenomenon is psychologically called “coconut shell effect.” “Coconut shell effect ” wonderful wonderful changes “want children to eat ” for “children eat ”. In the face of many parents feel a headache for children do not eat well, with children interested in coconut rice, the child can actually eat happily. By the same token, when communicating with a child, wrap the criticism, wrap it with a layer of sugar-coated clothes, make the criticism sweet,