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觉得老师不喜欢你?其实有这种想法的不止你一个。也许你认为老师给你的作业打了低分,甚至处处刁难你、挑你的错——这些情况时有发生。人与人之间的交往难免会产生冲突,学生应该如何与老师和谐相处呢?关键的一点是学会互相理解和尊重。学生不遵守规则,被老师批评后应该好好反省哦。同时,我们也要明白老师并非完人,有时也会犯错误。懂得了这点,对你与老师、乃至日后在社会上与不同的人相处都有好处哦。
Sure, it’s good to get along with your teacher
because it makes that time you spend in the classroom more pleasant.
And yes, it’s good to get along with your teacher
because, in general, it’s smart to learn how to relate to the different types of people you’ll meet throughout your life.
But really, there’s one important reason why you should get along with your teacher. When you do,
“learning bursts[爆发] right open,” says Evelyn Vuko, a longtime teacher who writes an education column called “Teacher Says” for the Washington Post newspaper.
In fact, kids who get along with their teachers not only learn more, but they’re more comfortable asking questions and getting extra help. This makes it easier to understand new material and do your best on tests. When you have this kind of relationship with a teacher, he or she can be someone to turn to with problems, such as problems with learning or school issues[问题], like bullying.
As a kid in middle school, you’re at a wonderful
stage in your life. You’re like a sponge[海绵], able to soak up lots of new and exciting information. On top of
that[除此之外], you’re able to think about all this information
in new ways. Your teacher knows that, and in most cases, is thrilled[激动] to be the person who’s giving you all that material and helping you put it together.
Remember, teachers are people, too, and they feel great if you’re open to what they’re teaching you. That’s why they wanted to be teachers in the first place – to teach!
Some kids may be able to learn in any setting, whether they like the teacher or not. But most kids are sensitive[敏感的] to the way they get along with the teacher, and if things aren’t going well, they won’t learn as well and won’t enjoy being in class.
What Does “Getting Along” Mean?
But what does “getting along” with your teacher mean, anyway? “Getting along” means you and your teacher have a way of communicating that works for both of you, and you both are getting what you need from the relationship. From your teacher’s perspective[观点], he or she wants to make sure you are paying attention, being respectful and polite, and trying your best to learn. From your perspective, you want a teacher who is respectful to you, answers your questions, and tries to help you learn. You can get along and learn without being pals with your teacher, although it’s nice if that happens.
In every school, kids will say certain teachers are mean or tough, but don’t judge a teacher until you are in his or her class and can see for yourself. In the majority
of cases, your teacher is on your side. And a teacher who’s called tough may be someone who feels strongly about getting his or her job done – teaching you the subject you are supposed to learn. It’s also important to remember that making mistakes is a part of learning. By pointing out your errors and helping you correct them, a teacher is teaching you.
What If We Don’t Get Along?
Teachers want to get along with you and enjoy seeing
you learn. But teachers and students sometimes have personality clashes[冲突], which can happen between any two people. If you show your teacher that you want to make the situation better, he or she will probably do everything possible to make that happen. By handling a problem like this, you learn something about how to get along with people who are different from you.
Your relationship with a teacher is often your first chance to develop a “business relationship.” Just like your parents have business relationships with the people
they work with, kids also can have these kinds of
relationships. They are different from your family
relationships and friendships, which are built on
affection[喜爱,感情] and love. In a business relationship,
each of the two parties gets something out of the
relationship, but they do not necessarily need to be good friends or like each other a lot. They simply need to
respect one another, be polite, and stay focused on the job at hand. In other words, they need to “get down to business.”
When you act this way, and remember that you’re not the only kid in the class, you are helping your teacher. Your teacher is likely to notice this and appreciate it. Teachers also like it when students follow directions and learn and obey the rules of the classroom. For instance, there may be rules about listening when another student is talking, or about taking turns, or about raising your hand when you want to say something or ask a question.
What Are a Student’s
Responsibilities?
Even if a certain teacher isn’t your favorite, you can still have a successful relationship, especially if you fulfill your basic responsibilities as a student. Here are some of those responsibilities:
Attend class on time.
Be prepared for class with the right pencils, books, and completed assignments[(课外)作业].
Listen when your teacher is talking.
Do your best, whether it’s a classroom
assignment, homework, or a test.
We’ve talked about some of the difficult
situations that come up with teachers. Now, let’s talk about the good stuff. Some teachers make such an impact that their students never forget them. Some former students may even go back to visit the teacher long after moving on to a higher grade or another school. Maybe you’ve seen these older students visit a teacher at your school. That’s a real compliment[称赞] to the teacher – that he or she was so special, the student wants to keep in touch. And there’s an even higher compliment you can give a favorite teacher: grow up to become a favorite teacher yourself!
与老师相处融洽自然是一件好事,因为这样一来,你在教室里的时光就会更加愉快。
没错,与老师相处融洽之所以是一件好事,是因为普遍而言,学会如何与生活中遇到的不同类型的人相处,是一种明智之举。
不过,你要与老师好好相处还有一个重要的原因。当你做到这点,正如伊芙琳·
武柯所说,“学习的境界豁然开朗”。
伊芙琳·武柯执教多年,是《华盛顿邮报》“老师说”这个教育专栏的撰稿人。
实际上,与老师关系融洽的孩子不仅学得更多,也更乐于提问和求助。这使他们更易于理解新的学习素材,在测试中取到更好的成绩。在和老师建立起这样一种关系后,当你遇到学习上的疑问或诸如校园恶霸之类的问题时,你便可以向他/她
求助。
身为中学生的你正处于人生当中一个美好的阶段。你就像海绵一样,能够吸收到许多令人兴奋的新鲜信息。除此之外,你还能以全新的方式思考所有这些信息。你的老师明白这一点,大多数情况下,他们都很期望成为向你提供资源、并帮你系统地学习所有这些材料的人。记住,老师也是人。如果你乐于接受老师教给你的东西,他们会感到很高兴。这也是他们当老师的首要原因——传道授业!
无论是否喜欢自己的老师,有些孩子可以在任何环境下学习。但大多数孩子对自己与老师之间的关系都很敏感。如果师生关系不好,他们便无心向学,也不喜欢到班里上课。
“相处”意味着什么?
那么,与老师“相处”到底是什么意思呢?“相处”意味着你与老师之间建立了一种双方都接受的交流方式,双方都可以从这种关系中各取所需。从老师的角度来看,他/她希望你精神集中、恭敬有礼,并且在学习上尽自己最大的努力。从你的角度来看,你希望老师尊重你,回答你的问题,并且尽力帮助你学习。即使你和老师之间不像伙伴那么亲密,你也照样可以学习。但如果可以像伙伴一样相处,那当然更好。
在每一间学校,孩子们都会说有些老师很刻薄严厉。但你不应该轻易对一位老师下判断,除非你已经上过他/她的课,亲眼目睹一切。绝大多数情况下,你的老师都会站在你这边。而被说成很严厉的老师,或许他/她只不过是太希望把自己的工作做好——把你应该学会的科目传授给你。记住很重要的一点:犯错也是学习的一部分。老师通过指出你的错误、帮助你改正来教导你。
和老师合不来该怎么办?
老师都希望与你相处融洽,喜欢看到你努力学习。但是,正如在任何两个人之间都可能发生的情况一样,老师和学生之间有时也会存在性格上的冲突。如果你向老师表明自己想改善这种状况,他/她很可能会尽一切努力去实现这一点。通过处理此类问题,你也可以从中学会如何与跟自己不同的人相处。
你与老师的关系往往是你学习建立“业务合作关系”的第一次机会。正如你的父母和与他们共事的人之间会建立起一种业务合作关系,孩子的世界里也存在这种关系。这种关系与建立在感情和爱的基础上的亲情和友谊不同。在业务合作关系里,双方从这种关系中都有所收获,但不必是好朋友或者十分喜欢对方。他们只需要互相尊重、保持礼节,并且专注于手头上的工作便可。换言之,他们需要“办正经事”。
当你做到这一点,并且记住自己并不是班里唯一的学生,这便是在帮助你的老师。老师们很可能会注意到这一点,并对此表示赞赏。此外,他们也会乐于看到学生遵从指示,了解并遵守课堂守则。例如当一个学生在发言时,其他学生应当专心听;要轮流发言;想发言或提问时要先举手等等。
学生有哪些责任?
即使你不喜欢某位老师,你们之间还是可以建立起一种成功的关系,尤其当你尽到了身为学生最基本的责任时。以下是作为学生应尽的一些责任:
准时上课。
课前准备好相应的笔、书本和做完的作业。
老师讲话时要专心听。
无论是课堂作业、家庭作业还是考试,都要尽自己最大的努力去完成。
我们刚才讨论过与老师相处时可能出现的问题,现在,让我们来说说好的一面吧。一些老师给学生留下了深远的影响,令学生终生难忘。有些学生甚至会在升读更高年级、或者转校许久之后回来探访教过他们的老师。或许你也见过这样的往届学生回到学校探访恩师吧。这对老师而言是一种真正的赞誉,因为这说明他/她是如此与众不同,令学生仍想继续与其保持联系。除此之外,你还可以为最喜欢的老师献上一种更高的赞誉——长大以后,当一名受学生爱戴的老师!
Sure, it’s good to get along with your teacher
because it makes that time you spend in the classroom more pleasant.
And yes, it’s good to get along with your teacher
because, in general, it’s smart to learn how to relate to the different types of people you’ll meet throughout your life.
But really, there’s one important reason why you should get along with your teacher. When you do,
“learning bursts[爆发] right open,” says Evelyn Vuko, a longtime teacher who writes an education column called “Teacher Says” for the Washington Post newspaper.
In fact, kids who get along with their teachers not only learn more, but they’re more comfortable asking questions and getting extra help. This makes it easier to understand new material and do your best on tests. When you have this kind of relationship with a teacher, he or she can be someone to turn to with problems, such as problems with learning or school issues[问题], like bullying.
As a kid in middle school, you’re at a wonderful
stage in your life. You’re like a sponge[海绵], able to soak up lots of new and exciting information. On top of
that[除此之外], you’re able to think about all this information
in new ways. Your teacher knows that, and in most cases, is thrilled[激动] to be the person who’s giving you all that material and helping you put it together.
Remember, teachers are people, too, and they feel great if you’re open to what they’re teaching you. That’s why they wanted to be teachers in the first place – to teach!
Some kids may be able to learn in any setting, whether they like the teacher or not. But most kids are sensitive[敏感的] to the way they get along with the teacher, and if things aren’t going well, they won’t learn as well and won’t enjoy being in class.
What Does “Getting Along” Mean?
But what does “getting along” with your teacher mean, anyway? “Getting along” means you and your teacher have a way of communicating that works for both of you, and you both are getting what you need from the relationship. From your teacher’s perspective[观点], he or she wants to make sure you are paying attention, being respectful and polite, and trying your best to learn. From your perspective, you want a teacher who is respectful to you, answers your questions, and tries to help you learn. You can get along and learn without being pals with your teacher, although it’s nice if that happens.
In every school, kids will say certain teachers are mean or tough, but don’t judge a teacher until you are in his or her class and can see for yourself. In the majority
of cases, your teacher is on your side. And a teacher who’s called tough may be someone who feels strongly about getting his or her job done – teaching you the subject you are supposed to learn. It’s also important to remember that making mistakes is a part of learning. By pointing out your errors and helping you correct them, a teacher is teaching you.
What If We Don’t Get Along?
Teachers want to get along with you and enjoy seeing
you learn. But teachers and students sometimes have personality clashes[冲突], which can happen between any two people. If you show your teacher that you want to make the situation better, he or she will probably do everything possible to make that happen. By handling a problem like this, you learn something about how to get along with people who are different from you.
Your relationship with a teacher is often your first chance to develop a “business relationship.” Just like your parents have business relationships with the people
they work with, kids also can have these kinds of
relationships. They are different from your family
relationships and friendships, which are built on
affection[喜爱,感情] and love. In a business relationship,
each of the two parties gets something out of the
relationship, but they do not necessarily need to be good friends or like each other a lot. They simply need to
respect one another, be polite, and stay focused on the job at hand. In other words, they need to “get down to business.”
When you act this way, and remember that you’re not the only kid in the class, you are helping your teacher. Your teacher is likely to notice this and appreciate it. Teachers also like it when students follow directions and learn and obey the rules of the classroom. For instance, there may be rules about listening when another student is talking, or about taking turns, or about raising your hand when you want to say something or ask a question.
What Are a Student’s
Responsibilities?
Even if a certain teacher isn’t your favorite, you can still have a successful relationship, especially if you fulfill your basic responsibilities as a student. Here are some of those responsibilities:
Attend class on time.
Be prepared for class with the right pencils, books, and completed assignments[(课外)作业].
Listen when your teacher is talking.
Do your best, whether it’s a classroom
assignment, homework, or a test.
We’ve talked about some of the difficult
situations that come up with teachers. Now, let’s talk about the good stuff. Some teachers make such an impact that their students never forget them. Some former students may even go back to visit the teacher long after moving on to a higher grade or another school. Maybe you’ve seen these older students visit a teacher at your school. That’s a real compliment[称赞] to the teacher – that he or she was so special, the student wants to keep in touch. And there’s an even higher compliment you can give a favorite teacher: grow up to become a favorite teacher yourself!
与老师相处融洽自然是一件好事,因为这样一来,你在教室里的时光就会更加愉快。
没错,与老师相处融洽之所以是一件好事,是因为普遍而言,学会如何与生活中遇到的不同类型的人相处,是一种明智之举。
不过,你要与老师好好相处还有一个重要的原因。当你做到这点,正如伊芙琳·
武柯所说,“学习的境界豁然开朗”。
伊芙琳·武柯执教多年,是《华盛顿邮报》“老师说”这个教育专栏的撰稿人。
实际上,与老师关系融洽的孩子不仅学得更多,也更乐于提问和求助。这使他们更易于理解新的学习素材,在测试中取到更好的成绩。在和老师建立起这样一种关系后,当你遇到学习上的疑问或诸如校园恶霸之类的问题时,你便可以向他/她
求助。
身为中学生的你正处于人生当中一个美好的阶段。你就像海绵一样,能够吸收到许多令人兴奋的新鲜信息。除此之外,你还能以全新的方式思考所有这些信息。你的老师明白这一点,大多数情况下,他们都很期望成为向你提供资源、并帮你系统地学习所有这些材料的人。记住,老师也是人。如果你乐于接受老师教给你的东西,他们会感到很高兴。这也是他们当老师的首要原因——传道授业!
无论是否喜欢自己的老师,有些孩子可以在任何环境下学习。但大多数孩子对自己与老师之间的关系都很敏感。如果师生关系不好,他们便无心向学,也不喜欢到班里上课。
“相处”意味着什么?
那么,与老师“相处”到底是什么意思呢?“相处”意味着你与老师之间建立了一种双方都接受的交流方式,双方都可以从这种关系中各取所需。从老师的角度来看,他/她希望你精神集中、恭敬有礼,并且在学习上尽自己最大的努力。从你的角度来看,你希望老师尊重你,回答你的问题,并且尽力帮助你学习。即使你和老师之间不像伙伴那么亲密,你也照样可以学习。但如果可以像伙伴一样相处,那当然更好。
在每一间学校,孩子们都会说有些老师很刻薄严厉。但你不应该轻易对一位老师下判断,除非你已经上过他/她的课,亲眼目睹一切。绝大多数情况下,你的老师都会站在你这边。而被说成很严厉的老师,或许他/她只不过是太希望把自己的工作做好——把你应该学会的科目传授给你。记住很重要的一点:犯错也是学习的一部分。老师通过指出你的错误、帮助你改正来教导你。
和老师合不来该怎么办?
老师都希望与你相处融洽,喜欢看到你努力学习。但是,正如在任何两个人之间都可能发生的情况一样,老师和学生之间有时也会存在性格上的冲突。如果你向老师表明自己想改善这种状况,他/她很可能会尽一切努力去实现这一点。通过处理此类问题,你也可以从中学会如何与跟自己不同的人相处。
你与老师的关系往往是你学习建立“业务合作关系”的第一次机会。正如你的父母和与他们共事的人之间会建立起一种业务合作关系,孩子的世界里也存在这种关系。这种关系与建立在感情和爱的基础上的亲情和友谊不同。在业务合作关系里,双方从这种关系中都有所收获,但不必是好朋友或者十分喜欢对方。他们只需要互相尊重、保持礼节,并且专注于手头上的工作便可。换言之,他们需要“办正经事”。
当你做到这一点,并且记住自己并不是班里唯一的学生,这便是在帮助你的老师。老师们很可能会注意到这一点,并对此表示赞赏。此外,他们也会乐于看到学生遵从指示,了解并遵守课堂守则。例如当一个学生在发言时,其他学生应当专心听;要轮流发言;想发言或提问时要先举手等等。
学生有哪些责任?
即使你不喜欢某位老师,你们之间还是可以建立起一种成功的关系,尤其当你尽到了身为学生最基本的责任时。以下是作为学生应尽的一些责任:
准时上课。
课前准备好相应的笔、书本和做完的作业。
老师讲话时要专心听。
无论是课堂作业、家庭作业还是考试,都要尽自己最大的努力去完成。
我们刚才讨论过与老师相处时可能出现的问题,现在,让我们来说说好的一面吧。一些老师给学生留下了深远的影响,令学生终生难忘。有些学生甚至会在升读更高年级、或者转校许久之后回来探访教过他们的老师。或许你也见过这样的往届学生回到学校探访恩师吧。这对老师而言是一种真正的赞誉,因为这说明他/她是如此与众不同,令学生仍想继续与其保持联系。除此之外,你还可以为最喜欢的老师献上一种更高的赞誉——长大以后,当一名受学生爱戴的老师!