问:做父母的,都想激励孩子好好学习。但是我发现,我越是激励孩子,孩子越是缩手缩脚。这是怎么回事?周春苗答:有家长问心理学家,如何激励孩子学习。心理学家回答:让孩子觉得冒失败的风险是安全的。孩子不能主动学习的主要障碍不是别的,就是害怕失败,害怕批评,害怕显得很蠢。一个好家长会让孩子理直气壮地犯错,不受惩罚地犯错。如果孩子失败了却毫无恐惧,他就 Q: Parents, want to encourage their children to study hard. But I found that the more I motivate children, the more the children are cramped. This is how the matter? Zhou Chun Miao A: Some parents ask psychologists, how to encourage children to learn. Psychologists answer: Let children feel the risk of failure is safe. The main obstacle children can not take the initiative to learn is nothing but fear of failure, fear of criticism, fear of stupidity. A good parent will make the child confidently make mistakes and make mistakes without punishment. If the child fails without any fear, he will